When I was 6 years old, my mom got a call from my teacher who said that I refused to take a test in class that day. I was a good student and didn't misbehave much, so this was pretty out of the norm for me.
That evening, my parents sat me down and asked me why I refused to take the test.
"Because I didn't want to get any of the answers wrong," I said.
I was so concerned of making a single mistake, even at that young age, that I didn't want to even begin the test!
As you know, if you don't take a test in school, you end up with a zero. Just by sheer mathematics, this can have negative consequences on your overall grades.
Thus, by NOT taking the test, I was potentially worsening my situation.
Luckily, after a discussion with my teacher and encouragement from my parents, I was given a second chance to make up the test.
While this isn't the only example from my life where I've prevented myself from getting started due to fear of failure (trust me, there have been plenty of times I've let this happen), it is one that stands out to me because the potential negative impact that it could have had is mathematically obvious.
I would have had to work super hard at trying to make that grade up had I not been given the second chance.
Unfortunately, it's not always as obvious what the full impact never getting started on something can have on our current state of affairs.
There's rarely a way to see what a parallel path.
What about you? Is there something you haven't done yet because you are so scared to fail that you won't even take that first step? Perhaps...
✔️ You haven't put your first offer out there in your business?
✔️ You only talk and think about the freedom-based business of your dreams but haven't taken any real steps to making it happen?
✔️ You're afraid to put the systems in structures together in your business because you're telling yourself you're no good at technology.
✔️ You haven't booked that trip you've wanted to go on because you don't have anyone to go with and you are scared to go alone.
✔️ You have always wanted to try a new sport or hobby but haven't because you don't want to look silly the first time doing it.
Trust me when I say that you aren't alone in this. This is something that's super common. I've been there. So has everyone close to me!
And while it's common and good to acknowledge that this is a thing for you, we don't want to dwell on the fear.
We have to push past it.
The things that you're potentially missing out on by not taking that action, in my opinion, are far greater than any failure you might experience. You truly could be missing out on truly soaring in this life. On truly living the life of your dreams.
Over a simple fear of failure.
The thing is, many times your failures actually are a GOOD thing.
As comedian, actor, and author Steve Harvey says:
"Failure means you've now learned another
valuable lesson that pushes you one step closer to success."
And it's so true.
I've "failed" many times in my life.
Doesn't matter - there are many failures. And looking back at those "failures", they've all led me to something so much more amazing.
Those failures created space for me to create something much better.
And the thing is - had I not taken action, I wouldn't have "failed" and I don't know that I would be where I am today.
So if you're finding that you haven't done something (or many things) because of a fear of failure...I'd really like to encourage you to take some time to push past this.
--> Your "homework" (Yep! Putting my professor hat on for this!) <--
Get out a notebook or some loose leaf paper and answer the following questions (1/2 page minimum for each!)
- What things am I scared to be taking action on?
- Why am I so scared to be taking action on these things? Is it valid?
- What would be so bad about taking action on these things?
- What would I be doing in these situations if I knew I could not not fail?
Be sure you put pen to paper for this; don't just think about it. Don't type it out. And don't wait until you can buy a pretty journal - just find some random paper. There's something incredibly powerful about writing it by hand.
Give yourself some space to do it - 15 minutes at least. Allow it to flow out of you.
I'd love to hear from you after you do this exercise on what came up for you on this. Feel free to reply back to this email with the result!
Remember - life's short; dare to live your dreams! We can't afford to wait another day to go after them!
PS - Did you see the homework I posted for you above to push past your fear of failure so that you, too, can create the life of your dreams? If not, scroll up!!
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