Recently, a name popped up in my Facebook friend requests that I hadn't seen in 12 years: A college boyfriend who I dated on and off for 5 years.
While we were close during our relationship, there were clear deal breakers that ultimately led to our breakup. We went our separate ways, and we never connected again - even on any social media channels.
So imagine my surprise when that name showed up!
Within minutes of accepting, I received a message from him saying he had run across my website online and after reading through it, he knew he absolutely had to speak to me.
In our conversation, he revealed that the last year has been pretty tough for him and he's been struggling.
And so much of what I shared on my website resonated with him.
While my business is focused specifically on technology, the part that really jumped out at him is what is on my About page where I share my story...
On it, I share that during a three-year period, I dealt with a LOT....divorce, job loss, 8 moves, illness, and a second relationship that was abusive and ultimately led to me being homeless literally overnight.
And I really struggled with this!
I mean, here I was a seemingly independent and successful person but I kept attracting so much negativity and felt like I kept getting knocked over again and again. I felt alone.
And it was embarrassing to talk about, especially as I grew my business where I HAD to be visible.
I spent a LOT of time hiding.
I spent wayyyy too long focused on & worried about what other people would think about me and it affected how I showed up. I didn't want to share. I didn't want to be visible.
I only wanted to help people.
I was afraid.
The problem is, when you hide, people have a hard time finding you. They don't know you exist.
And furthermore, I later realized that it was SELFISH of me to not share my story.
The thing is...while I did go through some pretty heavy stuff, I also did not allow myself to stay there.
I didn't allow my past to dictate my future.
While I kept getting knocked down..
I also kept getting back up.
And I now run a successful online business (one I had been dreaming of for years!), race mountain bikes at an elite level, am surrounded by some amazing people in my personal and professional life, and wake up excited every day because I get to support incredible clients with setting up all the technology in their businesses - which is totally my zone of genius!
I am no longer afraid to share my story because it's part of my journey that got me to where I am today.
So many times, we see people online and we are entering their story in the middle rather than at the beginning. And their middle is pretty darn intimidating...because they are so freaking successful!
And honestly, I think that can almost be slightly paralyzing. We want to get to where they are but it seems so far. So unattainable.
But one thing we all have to realize is most of them had to work hard to get to where they are.
Just like them, I didn't just one day wake up in this successful business. I had to fight hard through some pretty tough times to get to where I am now.
And in sharing my story, I have had dozens of people tell me that it's been hugely inspiring for them...and it's encouraged them to get unstuck and realize that they, too, can have whatever their dreams are made of.
That was the core reason my ex reached out to me.
In reading through my story, he saw that I had gone from a pretty dark and difficult place to to turn it all around and really go for my dreams.
He wanted to know that some day that the storm would pass for him too.
So in speaking, I gave him suggestions on the tools I used to help shift his perspective on his situation and some of the strategies I employed to get to where I am from where I was.
And he had talked to a ton of people about this before speaking to me, but he said this was the first time he felt like he was going to be able to do something about the way he was perceiving the situation.
I never expected to have that conversation but I am so glad that I had put my story out there because I was able to help him start taking steps forward.
You never know who needs to hear your story, your journey. You never know who is going to come across it and have it be a game changer for them.
It's actually selfish to NOT share your story. There are people who need to hear what you have to say in the way that only YOU can say it.
Keep that in the forefront of your mind every time fear creeps up in trying to be visible or share.
Remind yourself that you're sharing your message for them, not you. And it's all in service of others.
Dare to live your dreams!
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